Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Wednesday's wisdom....

Just do it!

Today I pushed myself to get to several things that have been nagging at me from the far reaches of my head.  You know, those little things you've been meaning to do but just haven't gotten to yet.  Simple tasks, really, which keep traveling from one "To Do" list to another.

So now I can cross them off the list.  And I feel all the better for having finally done them.


The trick will be, to stay on top of things now.......



(The Englishman and I are going to enjoy the last two nights of the Halloween lights.)

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Tip for a Tuesday....

Hot Water Heaters....
     
Daughter #1 had some work done on a gas pipe in her house recently.  For safety reasons, the gas was shut off.  The problem arose when the gas was turned back on and the pilot light wouldn't ignite on her hot water heater.

Numerous failed attempts meant the gas company would need to come in.
I happened to be there when the young man arrived to sort out the problem.
One of the first questions he asked me was whether the filter had been cleaned recently.

"Filter?  There is a filter that needs to be cleaned?  You mean like cleaning the coils under my refrigerator?" I asked.

Oh yes, was his reply.  And with that he pulled out a circular plastic mesh filter, about two inches high, which was fitted around the base of the tank.
And it was full of dust.
Who knew?

Apparently, on some water heater models such a filter exists.  It is important to periodically remove and clean it.  Air needs to be able to flow through the combustion chamber and keep the pilot light lit.

So my tip?  When you have a few minutes, look to see the make and model of water heater you have. Then check online and see if you have a filter or any other component which should be checked and cleaned periodically.

Best to keep all systems running - especially with the cold weather setting in.



Monday, October 28, 2013

A Monday memory....


Halloween - 1975, 1976


Notice a theme?  Why yes, I do love Raggedy Ann!  First I was "Andy" - due to the fact that my then college roommate was far more petite than I. (My mother had made the red and white "smock top" which was quite the fashion necessity in the late '70's.)

I became "Ann" the following Halloween, simply due to the fact I had most of the costume - the hat, blouse, cummerbund, apron and skirt were the uniform I wore for my position as a Hostess at The Proud Popover Restaurant, Faneuil Hall, Boston.  My dear friend D, who I shared the apartment with, was kind enough to dress as "Andy" in her jean overalls.  (Also considered de rigueur in those days.)

Since then, my "costume" for Halloween usually consists of an orange sweatshirt with appropriate decoration or a sequined vest which sports pumpkins and scarecrows.  Oh, and Halloween socks!

While those items are not exactly a full on costume, I always made a point of wearing some sort of holiday clothes when my girls were growing up or I was teaching.  I think it made the day a little more fun for me as well as them.

And now with the wee ones, I will carry on the tradition.  Thanks to today's technology, we will be admiring each other's costumes this Halloween via "Facetime."  Can't wait to see them!

Thursday, October 24, 2013

Thursday's Thought for the Day....

"The business of life is the acquisition of memories.  In the end, that's all you have."
Mr. Carson
Downtown Abbey - Series Four


So I'm making sure to continue to gather lovely memories, 
which will stay with me long after loved ones, and things, are gone.
Those memories truly are the most precious gifts!

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Wednesday's wisdom....

Enough already.........

Remember that campaign several years ago, advising young people to "Just Say No" to drugs?
I have a suggestion for a new campaign.
One to stop the bullying that is rampant in this country, from four year olds to senior citizens.

"KNOCK IT OFF!"

That was an expression my mother used years ago when she wanted my siblings and I to stop a behavior she found unacceptable.
Clear, concise, and to the point.

Maybe it's time to stop analyzing why certain kids are bullied.  Time to stop telling the victims they need to be stronger or more assertive.
Let's simply tell the bullies to
"Knock it off!"

Years ago, when one of my kids was being bullied by a female student seven years her senior, I spoke to her First Grade Teacher while in the lunchroom.
She immediately called over the bully and after a few minutes of discussion told her to "just stop it."
And you know what? It worked!
The Eighth Grade student stopped it.  She had been called out on her bad behavior, told it was unacceptable and it needed to stop.  End of discussion.

"Bullying," like experimenting with drugs and alcohol is not some "Rite of passage" all kids need to experiment with.
It's cruel and completely unnecessary.

Perhaps the real problem is that we need to convince the parents of the bullies, before we can convince the bullies themselves that everyone needs to....

KNOCK IT OFF!


Monday, October 21, 2013

A Monday memory....

Five little pumpkins....
While discussing Halloween with my granddaughters last week during a visit, I suddenly started to sing a rhyme I had been taught, probably fifty(!) years ago.  
You should have seen the look of surprise on M's face!  
"Grandmom, you know that song?"
"Oh yes," I replied.  "I learned that song when I was in the same school you go to now."
M isn't always in favor of me singing, but she made an exception in this case, and together we sang the entire song. 
(I admit, I may have missed a word or two.  It has been a long time...)

Some things do stand the test of time, I'm happy to say.
Nursery rhymes and holiday songs are among the nicest, I think.

For those of you who are not familiar with it, here are the lyrics:
Five little pumpkins sitting on a gate.
The first one said, "oh my it's getting late."
The second one said, "there are witches in the air."
The third one said, "but we don't care!"
The fourth one said, "let's run and run and run."
The fifth one said, "I'm ready for some fun!"
OOOhh OOOhh went the wind
And out went the lights
And the five little pumpkins rolled out of sight


Wednesday, October 16, 2013

Wednesday's wisdom.....

It's all in the preparation....


It was the custom in my house growing up that we laid our clothes out before going to bed in readiness for the morning.  Since we attended Catholic School, that meant making sure all the parts of our uniforms were assembled and ready. Including our ties.

As I grew up, I could see the wisdom of that practice.  On those nights when I was too tired or forgot, the morning found me scrambling in an effort to dress and make it to the bus stop on time. 

I don't know about anyone else, but it always seemed that whenever I started my morning by having to"hit the ground running,"
my entire day ended up being one stressful moment after another!

Escaping the house rituals at college, I made a few feeble attempts at "winging it" upon awakening. But between wanting to look my best and needing to get to class on time, I soon reverted back to prepping the night before.

Career time?  Again, any time I deviated from my nighttime ritual, I paid a price. Commuting is taxing at best when you allow enough time - spend an extra ten minutes hunting down stockings or an ironed skirt and you can be in for a journey extended by an hour!

Motherhood.
Preparation meant the difference between coping nicely or merely surviving.

I learned very quickly that spending the first third of my day in a nightgown and robe was not conducive to either good parenting or any feelings of self-esteem.
By the time daughter #1 was three months old, I figured out that I needed to get up at least a half hour before her, shower and dress in something brightly colored and comfortable,
  wash and style my hair, and apply makeup.
Then I could tackle my day.

These days, with "sixty" taunting me over the horizon, 
I still lay my clothes out each evening before bed.
Some practices just make sense, no matter my age or stage of life.



Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Tip for a Tuesday....

Shop at home....
Due to a near miss incident, in which the Basset Boys were chasing each other 'round the living room and pulled a lamp cord and its timer from the wall, the Englishman and I decided it was time to take some action.  We were concerned that the next romp would cause the table lamp to topple on them, causing serious injury.  We could also envision our "little people" running around and possibly suffering a similar fate.  So after moving things here and there, we came up with a workable solution.  In fact, I have to say, I really prefer the new arrangement to the old.

 
We moved the sofa table from in front of the picture window to the side wall.

This gave us a nice spot to safely place the table lamp.
I find I enjoy the framed family photographs far more in their new location.


Moving the table opened up the view through the window.
(Note the guilty looking Basset on the couch.)

In addition to making things safer, I started to take a fresh look at several items placed in the room. Noticing a standing lamp tucked in the corner, I realized it might work in the kitchen in my "office" area.  Sure enough, it worked well in the space.  
This all got me thinking that instead of looking in the shops for items I felt were needed to make our house and furniture work better, maybe I should have a look around at what I already have and see if simply changing its location makes it work better.

One hour later - several shelves had been rearranged, another lamp found a new location, and two large paintings had changed sides.  The result being that the living room feels as though it's had a makeover!

My tip?  Whether due to necessity or boredom, before you head off to the shopping mall, first take a good, long look around your house.  
You just might find what you're looking for right under your own roof.

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Monday, October 14, 2013

A Monday memory....

Columbus Day Weekend.....

Homesickness my freshman year of college found me longing for the opportunity to go home. Columbus Day Weekend was the first chance I had to escape campus and head back to the Garden State.  Since I was four hours away, my parents were not offering to just drive up and transport me. Instead, my father suggested I take a bus.  According to information he tracked down, it appeared the Continental Trailways Bus Company offered my best solution.  

If I remember correctly, I walked down into the nearest town and boarded a bus for downtown Boston and the Trailways Bus Terminal.
So far, so good.
The bus station was a bit overwhelmingly, but I negotiated my way through the crowd and purchased my ticket for the NYC area.  Finding the bus and boarding it on time was a challenge, but I met it.


After making sure my suitcase was safely stowed in the luggage compartment under the bus, I boarded and settled back in my window seat.  While admiring the scenery and looking forward to seeing family and friends, I felt quite proud of myself for having managed the trip so far. 

Until I started to notice we were exiting onto unfamiliar highways and signs for Yale University and New Haven, Connecticut were whizzing past my eyes.  While it might be interesting to get a passing glimpse of Yale's campus, this was not a good sign!   This bus trip was not proceeding as I had expected.  

In addition, the bus was starting make numerous stops I hadn't anticipated.  Each time we halted to let passengers depart, I watched in horror as my suitcase would be pulled out from under the carriage and placed on the sidewalk in order to access other ones.  Oh no, I thought - what if they forget to put it back under?  Or worse, what if someone simply picks it up and walks off with it?

Thankfully, my worries were unfounded and both my suitcase and I eventually arrived in NYC.
Six hours later.
Not the four hour trip I had anticipated.

Turns out, I had taken a "Local" instead of an "Express" bus route.

Vowing to never make that mistake again, 
I became quite adept at reading bus schedules, making careful note of the symbols they used to denote times and destinations.
And more importantly, 
whether it was the quickest route or the scenic one.



Thursday, October 10, 2013

Thursday's Thought for the Day....



This is a blessing worth pondering today, of all days, due to the blustery winds wrapping 'round my house.
Hold on tight, South Jersey!
Looking forward to a mug of tea by cosy candlelight this afternoon.

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Tip for a Tuesday....

Set the timer and say a prayer....

Many months ago someone shared with me a suggestion they had been given.
It was to set a reminder on your phone, to be repeated every day at the same time, to simply "Pray."

Sounded like a good idea to me and after consulting my tech guru, aka the Englishman, I set up the reminder for 11 am.

Easy Peasy.
Simple.
Yet surprisingly - far more rewarding than I had expected.

Each day, no matter where I am or what is happening around me, I am reminded to just pause, take a moment and say a prayer.  Sometimes the prayer is intentional - to cope with the current state of affairs or a request for someone's healing, while at other times it is just offered up in gratitude.

That moment can turn around my day, my attitude or simply make me smile to remember those who suggested it.

I highly recommend the practice!

Monday, October 7, 2013

A Monday memory....

Cabbage night.....
in Brooklyn, New York, way back in the late 1920's.
My Dad used to tell a story about his escapades as a young man around Halloween time.
Kids would fill an old sock with flour and hit each other with it.
Pretty tame, huh?  Especially in comparison to what this night has escalated into since then.

When I was in High School, this night called for a outing of roaming the streets of a local town with fellow teens, our pockets filled with eggs and/or shaving cream.
The eggs were hurled at other street wanderers in hopes of covering them with the gooey substance inside. The shaving cream was to add further insult to the situation.

I remember my Freshman High School year experience in particular. 
But first, a background story... 

While ordering the required uniform for my new school, my mother decided to purchase the school's blue stadium coat with it's largely visible school emblem. 
I was not happy about that.  At the time, I believe, wearing boys jackets was more the "in thing" in outerwear.  Reluctantly, and at her insistence, I wore the coat when the weather turned colder.

So it was on Cabbage night that I set off to join my friends, while wearing "the coat."
Meeting up with several friends, we started off at the top of the Main Street and worked our way down to the opposite end.  We had several encounters along the way - all of which I thought was great fun actually.  By the time I reached the meeting point for my Dad to pick me up, I was literally covered from head to toe in raw eggs and shaving cream.

To say my mother was not amused would be an understatement.
The dry cleaner later told her that it was nearly impossible to get all of the offending mess off the coat. So it had to be thrown away.

I can honestly say that the destruction of the coat was not preplanned on my part.  
It simply turned out to be a lucky turn of events for me - 
 I never had to wear it again.

                                                                                                 Sorry, Mom.



Friday, October 4, 2013

Friday Fotos....

Autumn has arrived in our yard....
 

 Mums the word!
Tall grasses, flowing in the breeze....













What I thought were squash, have in fact turned out to be cucumbers, in the most amazing twists of growth!







Tomatoes!














Assorted peppers....


And these are the two apple trees the Englishman and I planted this morning in the front yard.



The smaller one on the left is a dwarf apple mcintosh, the right is a dwarf apple granny smith.

Wishing everyone a sunny, breezy weekend filled with happy memories!
and
GO ARMY - BEAT BOSTON COLLEGE!!
(wishing made it so last week!)

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Wednesday's wisdom....

Knowing when it's time to "cut myself a break"....

Last night I had a wonderful idea for today's post.  Truly, I did.  But by this afternoon I was unable to remember what it possibly could be!  I've gone back and forth to my computer since noontime with the hope of remembering, but it is gone.

So I've decided to cut myself a break.  To say "I honestly can not remember" and then to let it go.

The truth is, I write this blog for me.  
I also write it for my daughters and granddaughters - to give them a window of sorts in to who their mother and grandmother is.
Something tangible they can reread in the years to come as a running conversation.

So today, I can say to them, and me, that I am human like everyone else. 
Sometimes, I don't remember.
Today: I got nothin!

I have days when I feel overwhelmed.
Then days when I am beyond grateful for all the blessings I have.
And then there are the days when I can not remember a bloody thing!
(That one's for the Englishman!)

What I do remember, at the moment, is something Scarlet O'Hara, while cutting herself a break, said in Gone With The Wind:
"After all, tomorrow is another day."

Who knows - maybe tomorrow I will remember my "wisdom" intended for today.

Tuesday, October 1, 2013

Tip for a Tuesday....

Born with high arches?  
Here's a fabulous solution to a heightened problem!


Finding shoes with proper arch support has been a continuing problem for me for years.  Those that offer the much needed support are often far more expensive than those that don't.  And often some pairs look more like Army boots than anything you would find coming down the fashion runway.

Solution?
Dr. Scholl's arch supports.
They slip nicely into the level insoles of my shoes and give the much needed support my feet and legs cry out for.
Now I'm able to wear those fashionable ballet flats which are comfy and more appropriate for my outfits than a pair of clod hoppers.
(I found them in CVS.)

Easy Peasy.