Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Tip for a Tuesday....

"Stop shoulding on yourself!"
Dr. Jane Hathaway

Wise words from a very wise woman.
Dr. Hathaway frequently urged me, when I was struggling with life as a teenager,  to stop telling myself, "I should do this" or "I should be that."

Similar to when I would say to my mother, "But they are..." and she would immediately ask me, 
"Who are they?" and then, "Why do you have to do what they are doing?"
Also a wise woman.

Not "shoulding" on myself continues to be a work in progress, but one in which I make greater and greater strides with each passing year. 
Life is so short - better to do the things I want to - with joy and enthusiasm, than to do them halfheartedly or with resentment because I feel I should.

That's my tip.  Stop shoulding on yourself in the New Year.


Happy 2014!
May the new year bring good health, peace and prosperity to all!





Monday, December 30, 2013

A Monday Memory....

Christmas Eve 2008
We certainly didn't realize it then, but this was to be the last time my mother was able to come to my home to celebrate Christmas.  Following her stroke and cancer diagnosis late May of 2009, she spent the next several years safely tucked up in her own home for the holidays.

Four generations of women, gathered together.
Grandma, new Grandmom, daughters and granddaughter.
How blessed we were that day!

Fast forward......


Christmas Eve 2013
The memory of that previous photo op came flooding back to me as I sat on the couch last Tuesday night, C snuggled up on my lap, watching everyone opening gifts.  I whispered to my girls that if they were very quiet, perhaps they could all slip into place next to us.  My hope was that the Englishman could capture the moment before C became aware of my plan.  

Mission accomplished!

Though we missed my mother terribly that night, we still felt extremely blessed to all be together and to have such wonderful memories of her to remember and share with each other.
And to have added little Miss C to our group hug!




Thursday, December 26, 2013

Thursday's Thought for the Day....

I found this on Pinterest.

 Similar to -
"If you change the way you look at things,
the things you look at change."
~ Wayne Dyer
I'm learning that changing my thoughts about a situation, can actually change the situation for me!

Oh, and 
Happy Boxing Day!

Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Wednesday's wisdom....

Have a very Merry Christmas!
Wishing you a day with loved ones, filled with memories to treasure.

Tuesday, December 24, 2013

Tip for a Tuesday....

Today's tip?

Accept that there is no "perfect"  
No perfect Christmas, Holiday, gift, family or meal.

My plan for today - to neither look for nor expect perfect.

To be open to letting go - to allow things to just happen.
To enjoy all aspects of my surroundings.

To be grateful for what I have, for what I've been spared and for all the memories I treasure of loved ones and Christmas pasts.

To just do the best that I can today and realize, deep down,
 that's enough.





Monday, December 23, 2013

A Monday Memory....

Cutting down the tree....
Spruce trees have a habit of growing, then rapidly outgrowing, their designated spots.  This was certainly the case with a spruce my parents had planted shortly after moving into our new house, when I was but a toddler. Several years later, they reluctantly decided the tree had to come down.  To soften the blow, they planned to take the top section off first and use it as a Christmas tree.  Clever, right?  
In theory....

So there we were - my Dad, sister and I - on what turned out to be a most challenging day of weather in mid December.  Sheets of rain quickly turned to ice, then snow.  Our fingers, numb with cold, didn't cooperate as easily as one would like.  The entire process seemed to move along at a snail's pace.

Climbing the ladder my sister and I had dragged from the garage, Dad found himself deep inside the branches of the massive tree.  Using a hand saw, he cut through the trunk as best he could.  When he felt he had made enough progress to allow the top to come down, he threaded a large piece of rope above the cut, securing it with several knots.

Meanwhile, the two teenagers under his command for this mission, were vacillating between impatience (we were freezing!) and fits of giggles.  Adding a degree of excitement to the afternoon, sirens began to wail, heralding the arrival of Santa Claus atop the local volunteer Fire Truck!
Amid much cheering, my sister and I quickly abandoned my Dad's side and ran off to the truck to get candy canes. 

The patience my Dad had with us that day was phenomenal!

When we returned to the job at hand, he then explained "the plan" about to take place. Our instructions were quite straight forward - with the end of the rope gathered in both our hands, we were to wait for his signal before doing anything more. Climbing back up the ladder, Dad then shouted down, "Now when I say when, I want you both to pull as hard as you can on the rope." 

Right. Got it.

Umm,  not quite. 

I'm still not clear if it was a premature tug on our part or just a flawed plan in general, but before we knew it, there was Dad, his head and shoulders barely sticking out from between the branches of the now toppled tree top.
We looked up in horror as he calmly said, "When."

Thankfully, he wasn't hurt. Though things hadn't exactly gone to plan, he was pleased that he had managed to cut the tree top off and get it down on the ground.
See how proudly he and his feeble assistant are smiling?
(My sister played photographer to capture the moment that day.)

And this is how the tree looked, resplendently dressed in tinsel, lights and ornaments, in the living room.

It was actually more massive than the photo leads you to believe, filling a large portion of the room.  It was far from the usual table top tree my parents had preferred in recent years.  Despite its odd shape and overbearing size, it felt extra special to us - having worked together to bring it in from our own property.
As I further recall, that particular Christmas Eve my sister and I sat on the couch and watched White Christmas on television for the first time after my parents had gone to bed.
Funny the things you can remember....

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Thursday's Thought for the Day....

A Partridge in a Pear Tree
(revision by Sarah Ban Breathnach)

On the first day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of my Undivided Attention
On the second day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Enthusiasm
On the third day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Creative Energy
On the fourth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Simple Seasonal Pleasures
On the fifth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Tenderness
On the sixth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Good Cheer
On the seventh day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Beauty
On the eighth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Communication
On the ninth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Surprise
On the tenth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Wonder
On the eleventh day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Peaceful Surroundings
On the twelfth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Joy

from Simple Abundance, December 12

The intangible gifts are often the most needed and appreciated by those around me.
Better still, would be to give the listed gifts above on a daily basis, all year round.