Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Tip for a Tuesday....

"Stop shoulding on yourself!"
Dr. Jane Hathaway

Wise words from a very wise woman.
Dr. Hathaway frequently urged me, when I was struggling with life as a teenager,  to stop telling myself, "I should do this" or "I should be that."

Similar to when I would say to my mother, "But they are..." and she would immediately ask me, 
"Who are they?" and then, "Why do you have to do what they are doing?"
Also a wise woman.

Not "shoulding" on myself continues to be a work in progress, but one in which I make greater and greater strides with each passing year. 
Life is so short - better to do the things I want to - with joy and enthusiasm, than to do them halfheartedly or with resentment because I feel I should.

That's my tip.  Stop shoulding on yourself in the New Year.


Happy 2014!
May the new year bring good health, peace and prosperity to all!





Monday, December 30, 2013

A Monday Memory....

Christmas Eve 2008
We certainly didn't realize it then, but this was to be the last time my mother was able to come to my home to celebrate Christmas.  Following her stroke and cancer diagnosis late May of 2009, she spent the next several years safely tucked up in her own home for the holidays.

Four generations of women, gathered together.
Grandma, new Grandmom, daughters and granddaughter.
How blessed we were that day!

Fast forward......


Christmas Eve 2013
The memory of that previous photo op came flooding back to me as I sat on the couch last Tuesday night, C snuggled up on my lap, watching everyone opening gifts.  I whispered to my girls that if they were very quiet, perhaps they could all slip into place next to us.  My hope was that the Englishman could capture the moment before C became aware of my plan.  

Mission accomplished!

Though we missed my mother terribly that night, we still felt extremely blessed to all be together and to have such wonderful memories of her to remember and share with each other.
And to have added little Miss C to our group hug!




Thursday, December 26, 2013

Thursday's Thought for the Day....

I found this on Pinterest.

 Similar to -
"If you change the way you look at things,
the things you look at change."
~ Wayne Dyer
I'm learning that changing my thoughts about a situation, can actually change the situation for me!

Oh, and 
Happy Boxing Day!

Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Wednesday's wisdom....

Have a very Merry Christmas!
Wishing you a day with loved ones, filled with memories to treasure.

Tuesday, December 24, 2013

Tip for a Tuesday....

Today's tip?

Accept that there is no "perfect"  
No perfect Christmas, Holiday, gift, family or meal.

My plan for today - to neither look for nor expect perfect.

To be open to letting go - to allow things to just happen.
To enjoy all aspects of my surroundings.

To be grateful for what I have, for what I've been spared and for all the memories I treasure of loved ones and Christmas pasts.

To just do the best that I can today and realize, deep down,
 that's enough.





Monday, December 23, 2013

A Monday Memory....

Cutting down the tree....
Spruce trees have a habit of growing, then rapidly outgrowing, their designated spots.  This was certainly the case with a spruce my parents had planted shortly after moving into our new house, when I was but a toddler. Several years later, they reluctantly decided the tree had to come down.  To soften the blow, they planned to take the top section off first and use it as a Christmas tree.  Clever, right?  
In theory....

So there we were - my Dad, sister and I - on what turned out to be a most challenging day of weather in mid December.  Sheets of rain quickly turned to ice, then snow.  Our fingers, numb with cold, didn't cooperate as easily as one would like.  The entire process seemed to move along at a snail's pace.

Climbing the ladder my sister and I had dragged from the garage, Dad found himself deep inside the branches of the massive tree.  Using a hand saw, he cut through the trunk as best he could.  When he felt he had made enough progress to allow the top to come down, he threaded a large piece of rope above the cut, securing it with several knots.

Meanwhile, the two teenagers under his command for this mission, were vacillating between impatience (we were freezing!) and fits of giggles.  Adding a degree of excitement to the afternoon, sirens began to wail, heralding the arrival of Santa Claus atop the local volunteer Fire Truck!
Amid much cheering, my sister and I quickly abandoned my Dad's side and ran off to the truck to get candy canes. 

The patience my Dad had with us that day was phenomenal!

When we returned to the job at hand, he then explained "the plan" about to take place. Our instructions were quite straight forward - with the end of the rope gathered in both our hands, we were to wait for his signal before doing anything more. Climbing back up the ladder, Dad then shouted down, "Now when I say when, I want you both to pull as hard as you can on the rope." 

Right. Got it.

Umm,  not quite. 

I'm still not clear if it was a premature tug on our part or just a flawed plan in general, but before we knew it, there was Dad, his head and shoulders barely sticking out from between the branches of the now toppled tree top.
We looked up in horror as he calmly said, "When."

Thankfully, he wasn't hurt. Though things hadn't exactly gone to plan, he was pleased that he had managed to cut the tree top off and get it down on the ground.
See how proudly he and his feeble assistant are smiling?
(My sister played photographer to capture the moment that day.)

And this is how the tree looked, resplendently dressed in tinsel, lights and ornaments, in the living room.

It was actually more massive than the photo leads you to believe, filling a large portion of the room.  It was far from the usual table top tree my parents had preferred in recent years.  Despite its odd shape and overbearing size, it felt extra special to us - having worked together to bring it in from our own property.
As I further recall, that particular Christmas Eve my sister and I sat on the couch and watched White Christmas on television for the first time after my parents had gone to bed.
Funny the things you can remember....

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Thursday's Thought for the Day....

A Partridge in a Pear Tree
(revision by Sarah Ban Breathnach)

On the first day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of my Undivided Attention
On the second day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Enthusiasm
On the third day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Creative Energy
On the fourth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Simple Seasonal Pleasures
On the fifth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Tenderness
On the sixth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Good Cheer
On the seventh day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Beauty
On the eighth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Communication
On the ninth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Surprise
On the tenth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Wonder
On the eleventh day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Peaceful Surroundings
On the twelfth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
The gift of Joy

from Simple Abundance, December 12

The intangible gifts are often the most needed and appreciated by those around me.
Better still, would be to give the listed gifts above on a daily basis, all year round.

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Wednesday's wisdom....

Just pass me by....
Spending a fair amount of time on the roads lately, while growing older (and hopefully wiser) every day, have brought me to a few conclusions when it comes to driving.

To put it quite simply:
It's pretty wild out there!

So, what to do?

First, I need to remain calm.  OK, at least calm-er than I normally am.

Second, if someone is tailgating me, whenever possible, simply pull over and let them go by. 
I frequently do this, actually, on both local roads and the highway.  It really lessens my stress level - even those times when I utter a few words under my breath as the offender flies past me.

Third, be aware of ALL the cars around me and assume that yes, they are going to cross three lanes without using an indicator or looking before crossing those white lines.

Most importantly:
Beware of drivers who are weaving!
They are either under the influence or using their cell phone. 
Despite the laws banning their use, numerous drivers still insist on texting or chatting while behind the wheel.  These drivers are not fully in control of their vehicles, so I need to give them a wide berth.
(A few years ago, I waved my hands at a young man on his cell phone, who was driving erratically in a supermarket parking lot and came much too close to my car.  After exiting his vehicle, he apologized to me, then continued, "But everyone does it, right?  You do it?"
I emphatically and truthfully replied, "No.  I don't."
He seemed quite surprised by that.)

Calm, yet defensive driving, sans cell phone use.  That's my style.
Or at least what I'm working towards....

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Tip for a Tuesday....

Mark your calendars....
Having a few minutes to spare before plunging into what I hope will be a most productive day,
 I've taken out the new calendar blotter I purchased for the coming New Year.  I will mark down the all the birthdays, as well as anniversaries and other important dates already floating round my head or on this year's calendar.  

With four family birthdays in January, it's never to early for me to make note of what is just over the horizon.   Becoming more "tech savvy," I've also started making notes on my "Reminders"  application, so as not to miss any future important events.

Seems the older I get, the more cues I need....

Monday, December 16, 2013

A Monday Memory....

Happy Birthday to you....


"Where are you going, my little one, little one
Where are you going, my baby, my own?
Turn around and you're two, turn around and you're four
Turn around and you're a young girl going out of my door...."
(lyrics by SONGWRITERSDONNARUMMA, PAOLO / MUNTER DAMIANI, GIOVANNI)
Sung by Kenny Loggins

Oh, how the years have flown! From toddler to Mrs.  
What pure joy you have brought to your father and I, as you've grown from those first steps to a confident, capable, outstanding young woman!

Wishing my "little one" a wonderful birthday 
and a year filled with happiness, good health and prosperity!!

Thursday, December 12, 2013

Thursday's Thought for the Day....

"It isn't the size of the gift that matters,
but the size of the heart that gives it."
Eileen Elias Freeman
American Author
Something to consider while finishing up my shopping!

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Wednesday's wisdom....

Light the candles!
This need to "save" things for special occasions or a future date is something I come by genetically.  It has been passed down to me from my mother.  The list of reasons she would give for this trait were completely understandable: having been raised in a difficult situation, as well as growing up during the Great Depression.  

For instance, if one of us gave her a new nightgown, she would admire it, then as she carefully folded it back into the box would say, "I'll save it in case I go to the hospital."  (In fairness, she did spend a lot of time in the hospital when we were kids.)  She would also apply "saving" things to other gifts or household items, using them only on special occasions.  

When I married and set up a household of my own, I often slipped into the same pattern.  I would find myself automatically saving things or using them only on holidays.  For the most part, I could see the wisdom in doing so - preserving things so they would last or feel special because they were only used a few times a year.

But I'm getting older now.  Much older. 
It makes more sense to me at this stage to use what I have and stop saving all of it.

Which is why I've been burning the candles we have.
Daily. 
In moving house, I've come across boxes and boxes of candles - pillars, tapers and votives.
Multiple sizes and scents.  I've been collecting them for years.
And now I'm burning them - using them - enjoying them.

I've also started using the cards and stationery I've been saving.  And wearing scarves and sweaters I've kept reserved for years for special occasions.  

Because as the ad used to say, "I'm worth it!"

And I also don't want my daughters to someday find these items unused 
and lament the fact that I never got to enjoy them.

Tip for a Tuesday.....

Do you love the smell of freshly cut pine boughs?
Then you will LOVE this limited edition dish soap from Meyer's!

Daughter #1 quickly grabbed a bottle and dropped it in our cart while we were shopping this past Sunday.  She then mentioned how fabulous the scent was and the fact that she was pleased to have found one of these bottles, as their appearance on the shelf is brief and only during the holidays.  
Well, since "Inquiring minds want to know" I asked for a whiff.

Sold!

As nice as the scent appeared in the store, I was thrilled when I put some in the sink last night.
The delightful Iowa piney aroma filled the room!
An easy, inexpensive way to increase that Christmas feeling around here!

Monday, December 9, 2013

A Monday Memory.....

Uh oh!!
During a cold December day, sometime in the mid 1960's, my family and I were in search of some Christmas presents in the shops located on the Main Street of the next town.  We were quite successful in finding many of the items each of us were seeking, in the very store in front of which we had parked.   So it was with huge smiles that we exited, eager to put our purchases in the car before heading off again for a couple of more items.  

Realizing that what was gathered in our arms would not fit comfortably in the back seat, my father directed my sister and I toward the trunk of the car.  Inserting the key, he popped the trunk lid up and.....

Behold! Two shiny new sleds dazzled our eyes!
                                                                (This is a photo from eBay of a similar Sears sled) 


The shouts which followed were not of joy, however.  They emitted from deep within my mother, who was horrified at what my father had, shall we say, "let out of the bag."

Let me explain.  Each Christmas, my siblings and I were always blessed to receive the items we requested on our wish list to Santa.  My mother enjoyed adding at least one "surprise" to the pile found beneath the tree for each of us.  This particular year, she was especially proud of having secured two new sleds for my sister and I - which were to be a SURPRISE.  Poor Dad, without realizing it, had ruined that for her.  Or so she thought.

My mother's reaction and disappointment was such that my sister and I truly believed she would send the sleds back.  I can honestly say that we were actually surprised that Christmas morning to find them under the tree.

We used them for many years thereafter, sledding down the hills of snow on the local golf course. 
(Which may be one of several reasons why that course erected a chain link fence not long after.)


Thursday, December 5, 2013

Thursday's Thought for the Day....

"When we recall Christmas past, we usually
find that the simplest things - not the great occasions - 
give off the greatest glow of happiness."
 ~ Bob Hope

I have found that the "simplest things" often are the ones I remember most vividly.
Things like a trip to the drugstore,
 to help the little ones choose the gifts they wish to give to their siblings and other loved ones. 
Singing carols in the car on the way to school.
Snuggling up together on the couch to watch a holiday movie or television show.
Donning Christmas aprons and baking goodies to distribute to friends and family.

Then repeating these activities, year after year, for the sense of comfort and security they bring.

Simple
Memorable
Wonderful

A wise and wonderful man, that Bob Hope.  
An English born American comedian, vaudevillian, actor, singer, dancer and author, he appeared on Broadway and radio, as well as in the movies and television.

He unselfishly made 57 tours for the USO between the years 1941 and 1991 to entertain our Military members who were far from home during the Christmas season.
That alone makes him pretty special in my book.

Monday, December 2, 2013

A Monday Memory....

Do you hear what I hear......


This morning I put on some of my parents' old Christmas albums, which had been safely residing in their living room stereo for many years.  And with the first song, I felt transported back in time to the 1960's, a young girl once again, who was eagerly awaiting December 25th.

The album Christmas in New York  was always the first record to be placed on the turntable.  The voice of Kate Smith would fill the room as she sang "Silver Bells," officially marking the beginning of our family's Christmas season. My brother, sister and I would then make several trips up and down the basement stairs, carefully balancing the precious boxes which held our decorations.  The tabletop Christmas tree, with its miniature candle lights, which had belonged to my Dad's mother, would be carefully placed upon the hall dresser. The Nativity stable would be gently pulled from its orange cardboard box and placed on the stereo top.  Each figurine would then be gently unwrapped from their tissue paper cocoon in the brown square box and arranged just so within the stable.  The Wise Men would find themselves several feet away, in preparation for their long journey, which would unite them with the others on the Feast of the Epiphany, January 6th.

These memories came flooding back this morning while I set about placing some of the familiar decorations I've accumulated since I married.  Finding just the right spot for them in this new house is a bit challenging.  At the same time, those treasures of my childhood are also being placed in new surroundings this year.  But the sweet memories they evoke, of the family I grew up with or of the little family the Englishman, our three daughters and I became, remain unchanged.
Precious gifts - tucked away deep in my heart -
which I will draw on during the next several weeks, as well as for many years to come.